Long Distance Relationship Advice - The Power Of Vision

By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Ricardo_M_Vasquez]Ricardo M Vasquez
I want to give you some long distance relationship advice and talk to you about the power of vision and why it's absolutely necessary if you want to succeed long term. It's simply the way the brain works whether you do it or not.
What a vision is:
Very simply and in English terms: A vision for the purpose of this article is a picture or movie that you hold in your mind's eye about your ideal relationship. In other words, if I were to ask you what your relationship would look like if it was up to you and without limits, what would it be? That is your vision.
Why you need a vision:
You must understand first that the sub-conscious mind doesn't know the difference between an image that is remembered or created. In other words, it accepts pictures or movies as truth regardless if they've happened in the past or not. We all think in pictures. So every time you think something a picture flashes in your mind and you create a neural pathway in the brain. When you repeat that thought the neural pathway in the brain gets thicker and embedded deeper. It gets stronger. Thus, creating a habit of thought. The brain then must create the behavior and attitudes necessary for you to create that picture.
We are always creating pictures in our minds both by choice and suggestion. When we listen to the radio, watch TV, overhear conversations etc. This is whets called inductive reasoning. But what we want to do is use our deductive reasoning skills to create an image we want.
The reason you need vision is simple. Because if you don't have a vision for yourself you will become a part of the vision that someone else has for you. You will become yet another statistic in most cases. You must give your mind clear direction for what you want. All the techniques in the world will not do you any good if you don't have a vision that supports your goals. After all, a vision is just a big goal.
How to create a vision:
The first step is communication. Almost everyone talks about communication when it comes to long distance relationship advice. Very few, if any relate it to vision. You need to talk with your partner and find out what they want out of this relationship. You should find out what they want to contribute, what they want to receive, what feelings they want to experience, what goals they want to accomplish with you. Then the both of you need to write down a paragraph that describes this for each other. The important this is not so much the description but how that makes you feel. You're after the feeling.
Then, I would each create whets called a vision board. Basically you cut out pictures from magazines, Google images, internet pages, books etc. and paste them to a foam board or something like that. These images need to represent what it is you want and induce the feelings.
Then, create a list of at least 10 affirmations or statements that support this vision in the present tense as if it's already real. For example "My relationship is growing stronger each day", "My sex life is incredible and getting better." You get the point.
Finally, every day when you wake up and before you go to sleep, close your eyes and focus on your breathing. You will focus on your breathing until you can feel your heart beating throughout your body. Then you will sit there for at least 5 minutes twice a day minimum. After 5 minutes you will flash the movie of your vision in your mind over and over again. Bring it to life. Add color. Bring it closer to you. Step into it so you're seeing it through your eyes, hearing it with your ears and feeling it as if it's already here. Really feel it! Do this for a few minutes at least. Then ideally in the mirror, while looking at yourself read your affirmation or statement out loud with conviction. Then take a few minutes to stare at your vision board.
I realize this seems odd and it will feel odd at first. But I promise if you keep this up for at least 3 weeks everyday twice a day at a minimum it will become a habit. Then, you'll begin to see your relationship soar. Why? Because that's the way the brain works.
Remember, if you don't have a vision for your relationship you'll fall into someone else's vision for you. The sad part is most people do. Most people float around in the river of life just going wherever it takes them. The truly successful use their paddles and steer in the direction of where they want to go. The paddles are our visions.
This is the best long distance relationship advice one can give in terms of building a solid foundation.
Ricardo Vasquez is the author of the blog http://www.elongdistancerelationshipadvice.com/ where he shares his insights, techniques and no nonsense approach to building, maintaining and sustaining a long distance relationship.
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